Some Thoughts on Being a Man in Asia

For the past 2 weeks, I have been hosting Dr. Patrick Morley on a speaking tour across China and Southeast Asia. Dr. Morley is the author of “Man in the Mirror – Solving the 24 Problems Men Face.” This book has sold 3 million copies and was voted one of the most influential books of the 20th century. Recently Pat updated and rewrote the book for the 21st century.Listening and hanging out with Pat and the thousands of men he has spoken to over the past two weeks, I have collected his nuggets on being an authentic man, husband, father and leader and want to share them with you. Read them, reflect on them, and make changes in your life to be the man and leader you are called and have potential to be. Ladies, please read and reflect as many of these insights apply to the career woman.

The Rat Race is the endless pursuit of an ever-increasing prosperity that ends in frustration rather than fulfillment.We have created a culture that requires more energy than men have to give.A man’s greatest need is his need to be significant. Not success, but significance.Work alone cannot produce a success that matters. What our families really want is more of us.Nobody on their deathbed said, “I regret not spending more time at the office.”Failure means to succeed in a way that doesn’t really matter.Every child needs their father to father their hearts not their performance. Positively encourage your kids.Your wife doesn’t always need you to be her “Mr. Fix it.” Make deposits into her emotional bank account by listening to her, spending time with her alone, accepting her unconditionally, laughing with her, and praying for her.Go home tonight and tell your kids you love them and that you are proud of them.The myth is “Money will solve all my problems.”Once we earn above a certain level, money creates more problems that it solves.No amount of success at work can compensate for failure at home.The greatest need children have of their fathers is encouragement. Break the generational cycle and encourage your children.If you do not have enough time for your children you can be 100% certain you are not a decent dad.Giving kids “your quality time” is incorrect. Give your kids quantity time and they will get the quality time they desire with you.

Prioritize everything you do in your life based on who will crying at your funeral.If you find any of these insights interesting, send me an email. I would like to hear from you on your ideas and experience of living a wholesome life as a husband, dad and a leader of significance.Have a great week being the leader of significance you can be!