6 Relationship C's You Meet in Your Leadership Journey

A few weeks ago, I heard Bishop Dr. Bronner speak and he had a very interesting take on the relationships in your life across the 6 C's. Let's review:

COACHES - These are the people in your life that, as John Maxwell says, "Pull You Ahead." They can be mentors, coaches, more mature people who believe in you.

COMRADES - These are the people who are learning and running the race of life with you. They can include friends, family, colleagues.

CASUALS - These people drift or intentionally move in and out of your life. They can be distant friends, family and people in your network you do not associate with much.

CARES - These are people that you help pull ahead. You may be mentoring, coaching, nursing, helping these people get healthy in life.

CHRONICS - These people are continual headaches in your life, thorns in your side. Usually both of you are in an unhealthy relationship, wounded and not growing.  For some reason, they are stuck in your life relationships till a decision is made to set boundaries and get healthy without them.

CONTAMINANTS - These people drag you down, taking you to a life that is destructive. Contaminants can cause sin, addictions, and even death. They destroy your health in a possible number of ways: Mental, physical, emotional, psychological, financial, legal and spiritual.

Both John Maxwell and Bill Hybels ask us to assess the relationships in our lives and identify the 10's who are pulling us ahead in a healthy rounded life.

After listening to Bronner and reading Maxwell's 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth, then reading Hybels' Axiom, I listed out over 80 people in my life that are 10's. Then I identified who my Coaches are, pulling me ahead for a healthy rounded life. So how many 10's really believe in me, love me and are helping me reach my potential?

There are 80 people who are real 10's in my life right now. These may be in ELAvate, my church, my mentors/coaches, professional people and of course people who love me and are excellent at what they do.

Of these 80, 37% or 29 people in my life are committed to "Pull Me Ahead in Life" by their own "Self Leadership" example, and their "10 Excellences" in what and how they live life.

I am blessed for having solid leaders who are 10's. Thank you for loving me, believing in me, and pulling me ahead.

Why not review your relationships across the 6 C's and determine who's who. See who you need to thank for "pulling you ahead." Identify the Cares you are serving and see if you can help them get healthy. Be thankful for the good solid people who equip and inspire you to be the leader and healthy relationship builder you can be.

And if necessary, set boundaries around those Chronics and Contaminants.

Have a great healthy week being the leader you have the potential to be. And while you are at it, affirm those pulling you ahead!